- Lay on a firm surface and use pillows to support your knees and head. You might like to try placing a small rolled towel under your lower back.
- Try a side-by-side position.
- Place a pillow under your lower back while your partner straddles you on top. You can also sit in a sturdy chair instead of lying down.
- Try missionary position with the legs bent toward the chest.
- Sit on the edge of a chair and have your kneel between your legs for entry.
- Rear entry may also be more comfortable for women with back pain. Try it kneeling on the bed or lying on your belly with a pillow under her chest.
- Sit on your partner's lap as he sits in a chair.
Remember, the health of your back is dependent on many dynamic factors.
Your symptoms may change over time so you may need to work with your health care provider from time to time as you go through the many stages of recovery. A word of caution is in order at this point. It is pretty common to begin feeling better and then overdo it and have your back pain symptoms flair up. We call this, the whoopee effect and it can happen to anyone. Just remember that as you improve gradually, so should your activity level also increase gradually.
As I mentioned earlier pain has two parts. There is the physical part. This is the actual stimulation of the nerve, like a painful tooth or a herniated disc pressing on the nerve. And then there is the subjective or the psychological part. This is how it feels to you and includes, among other things, such attitudes as fear that it will get worse or last forever, what will it means to be chronically disabled, and what you believe your partner thinks about it as well as how you are coping with your condition.
So, at the top of your agenda there needs to be a frank discussion of your pain limitations and expectations about sex. It is a mistake to believe that your partner understands what it feels like. It is your responsibility to communicate those limitations as clearly as possible; it is their responsibility to listen and try to understand. Pain, after all, is invisible and subjective. That means your pain is unique to you. We have heard people liken back pain to everything from a hot poker going down one or both legs to a chronic aching sensation localized to the lumbar area. It doesn’t matter what words you use, just try to explain the pain, what causes it (position, certain movements, or whatever), and what feels good or is what is comfortable for you.
Is it obvious that if it hurts, don’t do it is generally good advice but
some positions and techniques hurt more than others? It may require some
gentle experimentation to find out what works but as in most sex advice,
“gentle” is the best place to start.
In terms of maximizing yours and your partner’s sexual pleasure, it is very important to stress that all you really need is your imagination and the willingness to experiment to open up new areas of intimacy. But it all begins with willingness to try. And given that, you just may find that the lemon of back pain can be turned into the lemonade of new sources of mutual pleasure.
For more information on Back Pain and how to treat it effectively, read the latest back Pain Advisory from The Healthy Back Institute, click the link below:
About Lose the Back Pain System:
- The four "physical dysfunctions" that are responsible for over 90% of all back pain
- Simple "self assessments" you can perform in just minutes, anywhere to help you pinpoint which dysfunctions you have
- 4 Step-by-Step "Corrective Action Plans" that show you exactly what you need to do to balance your body and eliminate your back pain
- the facts about back pain and other conditions like sciatic nerve pain and arthritis
- how to strengthen your lower back and abs to prevent injuries