Porn

[Robyn81478]

Originally Posted by Lifter101

Does stop watching porn or no sex work with him?

Well, I've never tried that, but I'm thinking that it would just have a reverse effect. He'd watch MORE. Besides - I need it too.


Well, I haven't had much time to update this, hand my hands full lately.....but like I said, I'm going to stand beside him on this. There's been many times I want to turn my back and just give up. And I'm sure it's easy for a lot of you to say that I should just leave, that is the advice I would most likely give too. But, obviously, I've only given you all part of the picture. I love the man. Simple as that. I was raised to believe you don't turn your back on those you love, you help them. Do I feel at times I've been taken advantage of and pushed to my limits? Yep. There are times I feel like I can't deal with it any more. But on the other hand, he's a wonderful father. I couldn't ask for a better man to raise a child with. He stood by my side while I went through a disgusting custody battle with my ex husband. He stood by my side when I thought I just wanted to give up because it was easier than pushing on. He has accepted my 2 older children as his own and been a wonderful soon to be step father to them. He has taken to my family as his own family and they love him like their own. There are SO many things about him that make him a GOOD man, this is just one bad. I hate it, but we've talked quite a bit about it lately and he/we understand where it is actually coming from. It's not that he's choosing it OVER me - he has a problem. Everything that I have read about this tells me that if I leave him, his problem will actually get worse.While it may not be my duty to stand by him, I do feel that I have a need to stand by him and help him through it. He's helped me through more things than I can even think of, my duty is to return the favor. We're working on it and so far, no problems yet. LIke I said, he really suffered a traumatizing event in his life and this is where it all comes from. It allows him to emotionally escape from things. It's not a good way to deal with his pain, but right now it is what it is. WE will work together to find better ways to work through it.

[Gill]

Originally Posted by SunnyInc.

I serve my dangleberries... I don't question them....

This is pure fvcking brilliance.

[joemomma]

Originally Posted by SunnyInc.

I go through cycles with porn. Sometime I'll go a month without watching it and then there are those weeks where I'll just go on a spree. I s'pose how much I'm getting has something to do with it but sometimes it doesn't... I don't know it's weird. I serve my dangleberries... I don't question them....

Best ever. Rep worthy.

[Lifter101]

Originally Posted by Robyn81478

Well, I've never tried that, but I'm thinking that it would just have a reverse effect. He'd watch MORE. Besides - I need it too.


Well, I haven't had much time to update this, hand my hands full lately.....but like I said, I'm going to stand beside him on this. There's been many times I want to turn my back and just give up. And I'm sure it's easy for a lot of you to say that I should just leave, that is the advice I would most likely give too. But, obviously, I've only given you all part of the picture. I love the man. Simple as that. I was raised to believe you don't turn your back on those you love, you help them. Do I feel at times I've been taken advantage of and pushed to my limits? Yep. There are times I feel like I can't deal with it any more. But on the other hand, he's a wonderful father. I couldn't ask for a better man to raise a child with. He stood by my side while I went through a disgusting custody battle with my ex husband. He stood by my side when I thought I just wanted to give up because it was easier than pushing on. He has accepted my 2 older children as his own and been a wonderful soon to be step father to them. He has taken to my family as his own family and they love him like their own. There are SO many things about him that make him a GOOD man, this is just one bad. I hate it, but we've talked quite a bit about it lately and he/we understand where it is actually coming from. It's not that he's choosing it OVER me - he has a problem. Everything that I have read about this tells me that if I leave him, his problem will actually get worse.While it may not be my duty to stand by him, I do feel that I have a need to stand by him and help him through it. He's helped me through more things than I can even think of, my duty is to return the favor. We're working on it and so far, no problems yet. LIke I said, he really suffered a traumatizing event in his life and this is where it all comes from. It allows him to emotionally escape from things. It's not a good way to deal with his pain, but right now it is what it is. WE will work together to find better ways to work through it.

I agree, i don't think porn makes him a bad person. But it is pretty strange if he'd rather choose porn over the real thing. I say cancel internet provider and that should take care of the problem. lol