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02-14-2007, 09:55 PM
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Wife Drops Bomb
So it is Valentines Day...and I am about to be Happy...and my wife says that she is unhappy with me. I ask why...she says that she was attracted to my confidence in life. Currently I am going through some action were my confidence is waining. I am depressed and anxious. I ask her if I don't seek treatment, if it is over. She believes so, saying that it sucks to come home. In college we have broken up a couple of times....and I feel that action is happening again. What do y'all think? I am currently working in a job that we moved from Seattle to Iowa to help out her Dad....IE I run a company for him. The company hasn't been successful for 13 years, and I am trying to right the ship. She works for a fortune 500 company currently.
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02-14-2007, 10:19 PM
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You aren't in college now - you are married and it is childish to be breaking up over these sorts of hurdles in the relationship, they happen all the time.
If she was a supportive wife she would be by your side helping & supporting you in a time such as this - she sounds extremely selfish. I hope things sort themselves out for your sake.
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02-14-2007, 10:43 PM
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You are not the failure she is. My advice is say nothing and go see a lawyer tomorrow. Get legal advice and then take it. Never, never show a woman you are needy or under her controll.
I am sorry but a real woman would support and love you, she is a failure and a disgrace.
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02-14-2007, 11:28 PM
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So ..... you moved from a place where you were successful, confident, etc., to help HER dad fix HIS broken company, and SHE has the nerve to pull some BS like that on you. Geez - RUN TO THE LAWYER - protect yourself before she wrecks you and has you planted in a nuthouse.
Move back to Seattle, resume your life where you were comfortable, confident, etc., and do a better job of picking a spouse next time.
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02-14-2007, 11:38 PM
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but i do think she should give u a little more credit for your turning your life inside out to cater to her needs. i hate to say it but it does seem pretty gutless of her to treat you this way from the one post. if it doesnt work out though bro dont sweat it, theres always enough women for everybody. in the end pussy will be pussy, maybe shes on her rag.. lol jk bro.
dont mean to sound harsh since you obviously love her and want things to work out, but dont fight for a lost cause either man.. she kind of fed you a bull**** excuse for a divorce. there must be something else going on in her head.
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02-15-2007, 12:20 AM
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02-15-2007, 12:24 AM
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+1 I did not read his post as well as you did. My God you drop your life to help her family and she craps all over you, what a total cunt......go to a lawyer and get ready for a divorce!!! Do not tell her or anyone else she knows what you are doing
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02-15-2007, 01:39 AM
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02-15-2007, 01:44 AM
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OK - I can't resist this one any longer. I thought someone else would do it. When you say she works for a Fortune 500 company, does that mean she asks if you want fries with that, or restocks the Coca-Cola machines on her morning route, fixes copy machines for IBM? Really - lots of people work for Fortune 500 companies.......sorry - couldn't resist.
 Either way - she sounds very fickle and shallow. It may suck for a while, but you'll get over her, remember, there are more women than men on the planet - so your bound to find someone out there who is attracted to something more than "your confidence in life". Geez - straight out of a dime store novel.
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02-15-2007, 02:00 AM
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[quote=Patrick_Bateman;575899] Never, never show a woman you are needy or under her controll.
QUOTE] That is good advice, a woman needs a strong role model type alot like her father was (IF she came from a decent home that is), Why do so many women seek out badboys? any kind of strength in a man is attractive to woman.
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02-15-2007, 06:02 AM
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Just to clear a few things up....I chose to move back to Iowa and work for her father....she had nothing to do with that decision other that "Are you sure this is what you want to do?" She is currently doing market research and acquisition for the Fortune 500 Company. My depression and anxiety have been going on for 2.5 years.....at my last job and current one. I know that I have been self medicating with alcohol...which may be making it worse. I am not trying to make excuses....just trying to clear a few things up.
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02-15-2007, 06:14 AM
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Oh, well then get the fvck over it, figure out what it is that is bringing you down and eliminate it. Listen - some people actually do need professional help - most just need to be honest with themselves and they can solve thier own problems and save $5K in couch costs. A drink or ten is OK as long as its not to run from a problem......put down the glass til you can get the other stuff worked out. Good luck.
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02-15-2007, 06:33 AM
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Well....it stinks that she chose Valentines Day to discuss this with you, but marriage is a two way street.
And if she's not happy, would you rather her sit there and pretend she is, or would you rather her talk to you about it, and hopefully the two of you can work on the issues together? Maybe it's a tough love type of thing....you said that you've been depressed, and self medicating with alcohol...so maybe that's her way of saying it's time to make some changes....changes for the better. It doesn't sound to me like all hope is lost. Just a bump in the road of marriage. Work on getting your stuff together (without doing it to please her) and she'll probably see that as a step in the right direction.
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02-15-2007, 06:40 AM
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the first thing you have to do is, stop drinking till you level out. The alcohol is compounding your problem.
Your wife was attracted to your confidence....well you need to pull up your skirt...grab your balls and let her know.......that maybe her lack of support for your life....walking around threatening divorce surely doesn't help a person feel "confident"......distance your self from her....because wether you stay together or not...you need to find your self again...... which brings me to my next point..... what are you passionate about.....without her...lifting for example...throw yourself into it. Take time to rediscover who role is..out side of a husband and employee to father-in-law. You also need to eat as clean as you can. Free from additives,perseratives, and excess fat. These thing contribute to depression as well. Caffine is also something to avoid. Get yourself a good multivitamin and B12 . And Ill asume since you are on a bodybuilding website I dont have to tell you to exercise religiously. As consulting an attorney is not a horrible idea...... you may first concider consulting the good Lord above. He can give the strength you need to feel worthy again. There is no greater counsil than God. so there's my $.02 best of luck to you and your family.
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02-15-2007, 07:06 AM
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Don't go wasting your money on a therapist just because she wants you to either... Sounds like she has a problem with you, doesn't sound like you have a problem with you. Therefore she is the problem, therefore a therapist won't do anything but make your wife feel more powerful. Be strong, maybe stop using negative phrases like 'self-medicate'. I don't 'self-medicate', I have a beer. If you need booze to function that's different and women don't tend to respect that...
Would you tell your wife that basically you don't like her, you don't like her lack of confidence? Sounds like that's what she said to you. Always hard to tell though from a short post on a forum. Oh and iwannaplaylock, you are out of order!
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02-15-2007, 07:31 AM
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KT offered some good advice.
Sounds like you have some changes to make w/in yourself. If you aren't happy (haven't been for 2.5 years), how can you expect your wife to be happy? If the issue is alcohol, stop drinking.......if the issue is the job, get a different job. You are in this for life right? Than nothing comes before it......including work. As for her communicating that she has issues with your behavior - you should be happy she did. Would you rather her be unhappy for a long period of time and not tell you? Then 5 years down the road, she is so far gone that the marriage can't be saved, simply because she didn't communicate.
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02-15-2007, 08:28 AM
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Damn, what a day to drop something like that on ya. Makes one wonder if shes not cheating too and maybe just tring to justify it.
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