They say it comes in threes

[ktinspired]

I've never had much experience with death in my 33 years, till now.

At the begining of December, I lost my friend Jeff to emphazima. Last week the ole man's sister pasted away, with alzheimers.

Now, we've been hit with another tragedy. We recieved a phone call Tuesday night another friend of ours shot himself in the head christmas night. Very very sad.

He was going thru a divorced. His mother died in november. Saturday night he recieved his third DUI and I guess he just lost it.

I've mentioned this guy and his divorce around here before. His wife was trying to take half of what he had and they had only been married a year. This chick is an evil F--kin biitch. First thing I thought is that she killed him. I call the police dept. and told them I suspected foul play cause she is soooo capable of murder and if she isn't her kids are. After an investigation they found that , yes he did it himself.

They ole man was at his house just before christmas and he was happy, he said he was going to buy a dog at the pound for christmas. I just dont get it.

Now here's the saddest part. The court date for the divorce was suposed to be this week. Sooo, since they are still legally married, she gets control over everything till the estate goes thru probate. He has been cremated, And she is refusing to speak to anyone in regards to a memorial service. So the family may have to have his memorial without his remains. I just pray that she comes around and realizes how many people she is hurting. The scary part is she has no conscious.

THis is all so crazy. I never imagined things to be like this.

[Rickster]

I don't think i ever want to get married. stuff like this is sad. I think I'll take the path of the player

[7digits]

it is a shame that things like this have to happen. but evil people will get theirs in the end. my prayers are with you.

[HammerTech]

ktinspired, this is so hard to listen to, and some people are just straight up evil. Sounds like the case with the "ex-wife". But as 7Digits said so well, she'll get hers in the end.

I've had more experience with death than I care to in 34 years, with most of my aunts, uncles, and both my parents having passed away already.

[7digits]

Originally Posted by HammerTech

ktinspired, this is so hard to listen to, and some people are just straight up evil. Sounds like the case with the "ex-wife". But as 7Digits said so well, she'll get hers in the end.

I've had more experience with death than I care to in 34 years, with most of my aunts, uncles, and both my parents having passed away already.

both my parents are gone also. it's been almost 3 years for my mom and 1 year in January for my dad.

[ktinspired]

Originally Posted by 7digits

both my parents are gone also. it's been almost 3 years for my mom and 1 year in January for my dad.

I just cant imagine what that must be like.....my heart goes out to you.

[7digits]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

I just cant imagine what that must be like.....my heart goes out to you.

thanks kt. i'm still alittle upset that she never got to see me get married.

[ktinspired]

Originally Posted by 7digits

thanks kt. i'm still alittle upset that she never got to see me get married.

Im sure she was there for every second!

[7digits]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

Im sure she was there for every second!

i think so too. how are you holding up?

[POWERJIM]

Sorry to hear yet more sad news from you KT, not a great way to start a new year off huh.

[Hawkwind]

I'm so sorry to hear about this KT. {{{hugs}}} and prayers going out.

[TorontoMoFo]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

I've never had much experience with death in my 33 years, till now.

At the begining of December, I lost my friend Jeff to emphazima. Last week the ole man's sister pasted away, with alzheimers.

Now, we've been hit with another tragedy. We recieved a phone call Tuesday night another friend of ours shot himself in the head christmas night. Very very sad.

He was going thru a divorced. His mother died in november. Saturday night he recieved his third DUI and I guess he just lost it.

I've mentioned this guy and his divorce around here before. His wife was trying to take half of what he had and they had only been married a year. This chick is an evil F--kin biitch. First thing I thought is that she killed him. I call the police dept. and told them I suspected foul play cause she is soooo capable of murder and if she isn't her kids are. After an investigation they found that , yes he did it himself.

They ole man was at his house just before christmas and he was happy, he said he was going to buy a dog at the pound for christmas. I just dont get it.

Now here's the saddest part. The court date for the divorce was suposed to be this week. Sooo, since they are still legally married, she gets control over everything till the estate goes thru probate. He has been cremated, And she is refusing to speak to anyone in regards to a memorial service. So the family may have to have his memorial without his remains. I just pray that she comes around and realizes how many people she is hurting. The scary part is she has no conscious.

THis is all so crazy. I never imagined things to be like this.

my condolences to you.

[ktinspired]

Originally Posted by 7digits

how are you holding up?

Im fine, personally I find what he did to be the single most selfish thing anyone can do. I mean he was my friend and all but the way I see it he basically told us all we can go f-ck ourselves so, I haven't shed a tear.

The hardest part is knowing what to say to his sister evrytime she breaks down. Shes taking this the worst and her family has left it to her to deal with the wife.
I'd like to help but at the same time I have to think of myself. I mean I dont want nor do I need to get in the middle of the war over his remains. But then I do believe a respectful memorial is in order. so that parts tough, it's a fine line between doing whats right and keeping nose outta were it doesn't belong.

[POWERJIM]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

Im fine, personally I find what he did to be the single most selfish thing anyone can do. I mean he was my friend and all but the way I see it he basically told us all we can go f-ck ourselves so, I haven't shed a tear.

The hardest part is knowing what to say to his sister evrytime she breaks down. Shes taking this the worst and her family has left it to her to deal with the wife.
I'd like to help but at the same time I have to think of myself. I mean I dont want nor do I need to get in the middle of the war over his remains. But then I do believe a respectful memorial is in order. so that parts tough, it's a fine line between doing whats right and keeping nose outta were it doesn't belong.

Well who knows what goes through peoples minds at the point of killing themselves, ive been really tempted in the past and hopefully i wont get to the point of doing it for others sakes. Im sure he didnt really see past the pain of what he was going through to even think about others, dont take that as he didnt give a sh!t though as im sure he did.

[Boogeyman]

That's disheartening...

[narcsarge]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

Im fine, personally I find what he did to be the single most selfish thing anyone can do. I mean he was my friend and all but the way I see it he basically told us all we can go f-ck ourselves so, I haven't shed a tear.

The hardest part is knowing what to say to his sister evrytime she breaks down. Shes taking this the worst and her family has left it to her to deal with the wife.
I'd like to help but at the same time I have to think of myself. I mean I dont want nor do I need to get in the middle of the war over his remains. But then I do believe a respectful memorial is in order. so that parts tough, it's a fine line between doing whats right and keeping nose outta were it doesn't belong.

KT, hugs and prayers to you hun! I have had 2 people very close to me commit suicide and your statement sums it up perfectly. It is truly the most selfish act! No matter the "reasons", stated or left unsaid, the act is truly selfish. Just a thought, no matter what arrangements are made, hold a memorial of your own for him. Invite who you want, celebrate how you want, and to hell with what anyone thinks. Morn in your own way. If you need anything, just ask ok?

[7digits]

Originally Posted by ktinspired

Im fine, personally I find what he did to be the single most selfish thing anyone can do. I mean he was my friend and all but the way I see it he basically told us all we can go f-ck ourselves so, I haven't shed a tear.

The hardest part is knowing what to say to his sister evrytime she breaks down. Shes taking this the worst and her family has left it to her to deal with the wife.
I'd like to help but at the same time I have to think of myself. I mean I dont want nor do I need to get in the middle of the war over his remains. But then I do believe a respectful memorial is in order. so that parts tough, it's a fine line between doing whats right and keeping nose outta were it doesn't belong.

I agree that the single most selfish thing a person can do is take their own life. But he fell into a pit that he could not get out of. Have your own memorial and try to remember the good times.

[ktinspired]

An update....THe family has decided to hold a memorial on Saturday. No one has spoken to the wife so the family wont be spreading the ashes on the beach. Im glad they are a peace with having the services without the remains, rather than fight her.

In the middle of typing the last sentence the wife just called me. (shoker) Im not sure how much of what she says is actually the truth. But she confirmed that she refuses to speak to the family. But she also said she thinking of just giving his remains to the family and doing her own thing in way of memorial. So she doesn't have to deal with them. She doesn't know Im am in communication with the famil