eating dsorder

[jralva]

that if they go past being thin as a rail they will not be like or loved.
they tie there self worth to thinnes, its sad, there are soooo many people like this out there, like one of you said, the media really glorifies the "heroin" and waif look.

[Merk0135]

Anorexia is an anxiety disorder. The people most commonly associated with the disorder are rich teenage girls. A lot of times people with anorexia have had some type of abuse when they were a kid, most likely sexual. A lot of them feel insignificant and don't want to be anything, thus they starve themselves into obscurity.

Also, there is a difference between bulemia and anorexia. Bulemics don't look unhealthy because their body consumes all the calories, however, they end up vomiting all the nutrients. Thus, they don't ever lose any weight because they binge eat a lot of caloires at once. The excessive vomiting causes a lot of health issues as the stomach acid constantly irritates their throat, mouth and teeth. Bulemics usually die of heart failure because the heart isn't getting the potassium it needs to survive. Anorexics usually die because the body isn't getting enough fuel to feed it's energy levels because they are starving themselves.

[cwcollins]

This a very touchy subject for me & I hope those that are judging this disorder with disgust can understand the true meaning behind it & why so many women & some men experience it.

This taken from my bio:

Like so many others am I am survivor of Bulimia & Anorexia – for about 3 years of my life, maybe more. I worked for Outback Steakhouse for 8 years in Management – in that time, along with being in a physically & emotionally abusive relationship I learned to hate food & it became the only thing I control. Don’t get me wrong, Outback is great, but I was working 60+ hour workweeks, my soul job was training & maintaining quality within the restaurant, I suddenly found myself hating the smells & anything remotely associated with food. It was my defense against a man was & is a piece of ****. My life took a drastic change 3 ½ years ago while in a fight with my ex, I took about a bottle of Tylenol PM, not wanting to die, but wanting to go to sleep, in hopes when I would awake I would not have to fight anymore & was scared for my life – what I didn’t know was I was about 30 minutes from losing my life, as taking the Tylenol caused an overdose & it could of killed my liver, which in turn would of killed me. I was finally treated for my eating disorder, finally, because I had reached out so many times, but no one thought it was real – my mom even told me “eating disorders don’t run in our family” – like that meant something?

I know, looking back, I have always battled my weight, throughout high school I was the big boned girl, funny, because I am so far from being big boned, but I knew no difference, however, I did run track & I was a lot of muscle. My mom is & always will be a binge dieter, trying to get the quick fix & hope for lasting results – crazy, she’s a lost cause when it comes to diets. Unfortunately, she was my mentor with food, so maybe that’s where it all began.

Now, I am healthy, I’m in a better relationship, my husband has many faults, but he’d never hit me or belittle me. Becoming pregnant, even though he was not planned, was a sure blessing in disguise; it saved my life & allowed me to find Monica & who she really is. From my eating disorder I have learned so much about fitness & good eating habits so, in some ways it gave me something great – something I am thankful for. I truly do not live my life through mistakes & with regrets, I was given a true second chance, so I learn, become stronger & move on

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If you know someone who may have an eating disorder, my best advise is be there, listen, they might not reach for help by telling you out right, look for other signs, educate yourself & please don't chalk it up to not liking food, it really is not that simple.

Many of the these young girls are not true Bulemics or Anorexs - they are going through an identity phase, as we all go through, it is though who fall victim over a long period of time of binging or not eating that have severe problems & will result in having sever problems emotionally & physically down the road.

We all have our demons, no one is perfect.............

[POWERJIM]

Its all about gaining some kind of control in your life then? when your going through a period of feeling out of control.

[Merk0135]

Originally Posted by POWERJIM

Its all about gaining some kind of control in your life then? when your going through a period of feeling out of control.

It's an axiety disorder. Like I said, a lot of people turn to anorexia after abuse. Many times it's because psychologically they want to shrivel away and not be in existence. It is also a means of control since those who have been abused have lost that sense of control.

[cwcollins]

Originally Posted by POWERJIM

Its all about gaining some kind of control in your life then? when your going through a period of feeling out of control.

i was not at a good point in my life for & the man I was with was the number reason why - he controlled me & I needed something to control myself, feeling helpless, i was working so much, combined with everything else, one thing led to another.

"it really grinds my gears" because we, as a a society, past judgement so easliy without knowing or even trying to know why someone is or looks the way they do - and eating disorders seems to be top of the list.

[Merk0135]

Originally Posted by cwcollins

i was not at a good point in my life for & the man I was with was the number reason why - he controlled me & I needed something to control myself, feeling helpless, i was working so much, combined with everything else, one thing led to another.

"it really grinds my gears" because we, as a a society, past judgement so easliy without knowing or even trying to know why someone is or looks the way they do - and eating disorders seems to be top of the list.

psychological disorders are something generally misunderstood by the general public.

[POWERJIM]

Originally Posted by Merk0135

It's an axiety disorder. Like I said, a lot of people turn to anorexia after abuse. Many times it's because psychologically they want to shrivel away and not be in existence. It is also a means of control since those who have been abused have lost that sense of control.

Yeah i know a young lady who was abused at 3 years old and has had a pretty fvcked up life, i would call her very much anorexic, some say they dont wont to grow up so they try to keep themselves looking young by not gaining weight, also of course the breast tissue is decreased its very complex subject.

[NiteHawk]

My experience in dealing with people like this as a police officer is that these people are doing it for attention. Its a way to ask for help without asking. I guess pride gets in the way for asking for help. But not wanting to eat just makes no personal sense to me probably because Ive never felt that way or would I want to.

These disorders kind of go with people who say they are going to commit suicide. They are asking for help without coming right out and asking. We do welfare checks on these people a lot. We usually end up taking them to a mental health center and have them in counseling. Sometimes they go willingly, sometimes we have to an immediate detention order and force them.
Again, from my experience if a person really wanted to commit suicide, they would just do it. I know this sounds cold but its the hard truth. I see it all the time dealing with the bad side of humanity. Maybe I built a callous around me but I speak from experience.

Monica, Im glad you are better now and I hope you never fall back in that trap again.

[cwcollins]

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My experience in dealing with people like this as a police officer is that these people are doing it for attention.


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I understand your point, but that comment about brought me to tears - zi can only imagine what you see as a police officer & what kind of person you have to be to see such people in there times of weakness, but not everyone is that way.

[POWERJIM]

I would say its attention seeking as in a cry for help, maybe alot like people who choose to abuse drugs they need our help.

[CookieMonster]

i think people who suffer from eating disorders is incrdibly sad. in my abnormal psych class we say a bunch of videos on that kinda stuff and heard peoples experiences about it.

just wanted to say if you know anyone who might have a problem like that not to ignore it but please try to help them.

[Lowrider]

i watched a vid and this women said you almost go into like a state where you just block what people are saying,

"so what its bad for my health, i cant see anything wrong with me, and if i could just loose those last 5 pounds etc."

so its must be hard for them to get them selves out of it, because i guess with drugs atleast that person will sometimes go sobar and that will be when they realise they need to quit, but with this it seems they need other people to tell them and help then because they almost become engulfed by it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stH-LRTjEC0

she has some good vids