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Leave them. Do it! I speak from experience with the EXACT same situation.
You dont have to tell them to F! off. Rather express your feelings in a mature way. If any one of them is really a true friend they will understand and respect you in your decision. Otherwise tuff sh*t you aint gonna live forever brother. DO NOT let pot lead you down a path you dont want to go. Despite what some people may say, marijuanna IS addictive, both physically and mentally, and it DOES wreck lives. Furthermore, dont think that you can live the way you want to live, and still hang around your buddies and be cool.....Everyone's different I understand, but IMHO and my experience, it dont work. Who knows, perhaps even down the road, one day one of those people will walk up to you and say...."You know what man, you were right, a few months after you split I realized there's more to life then getting high.....you changed my life....Thank You" Best of Luck in whatever you want to achieve in the time you have on this planet!
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Great post Traps. I think you are totaly on the money, I will just respectfully say that we need to go our own ways and if they don't like it then tough beans. Thanx again to all that responded you guys really gave me support on this.
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09-07-2006, 07:44 PM
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You don't necessarily need to say, "Hey, I don't want to be your friend anymore". And if they're good people, you should remain friends with them on some level. You should just start doing your own thing. You could still talk to them, call them, email, etc. You just don't necessarily need to be hanging out with them all the time. So, there would be a distance between you and them, but you wouldn't be cutting your friends out of your life.
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09-07-2006, 07:57 PM
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Not trying to sound patronising but unless you've been there it's hard to call.
When recreational drug use turns into a habit & a daily occurance it becomes a problem that must be cut off. I'm not sure if daily drug use is the case here but when I was in my late teens, myself & my mates were getting high every day. I clued up & got out of the scene but still kept in contact with a few of the guys (one of them was the best man at my wedding & I at his). This guy since got hooked on meth & all the help in the world wouldn't make a difference (according to him he had no problem). I got a phone call at work one day from this guy accusing me of trying to bed his wife  .He had gotten so delusional that I had to just cut contact with him or it could have gotten dangerous. Bane - If your mates decide one day to give up the drugs, they may realise what a good decision you had made earlier & should come looking to make contact with you. If they don't eventually get off the drugs, do you really want to still associate with them?
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09-07-2006, 08:08 PM
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One of these people was my closest guy friend since I was about 12 years old. I don't hang out with him anymore, but I do socialize with him, and call him to see how he's doing (he got to a point where he was doing K - which is something like a horse tranquilizer - all the time, and he went into rehab for a long time). So, I still consider him one of my friends, just not the kind that I'm hanging out with all the time like I used to. I think, depending on the level of friendship you have, and the type of people they are, you can still maintain a friendship, without putting your lifestyle in jeopardy.
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I think I was just more concerned with mine & my wifes safety (there has been a spate of psychotic meth smokers killing &/or mutilating people in fits of meth induced rage over here).
It depends on the extremity of the problem I s'pose. PS. I love it when people start off a post with "Actually....."  
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Alright. No I didn't. I just F'd up. P.S. I think that's how we spell it in America????? ****EDIT: I take it back. I didn't F up. I just looked it up, and I spelled it right. Hmmmmm, now who's patronizing who? Last edited by jennyd; 09-07-2006 at 08:28 PM.
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Yea it is deffinatley and every day thing with the pot smoking. It's just that when you have a habit that bad that IS your activity, that's all they want to do so I am like why am I wasting my time. It is obviously a problem for them but the way they talk they think it is just fine and they talk about meth like it is even better than pot so it is totaly like we are going two different directions with our lives. They look at me since I started woking out again and they are all like " yea you look huge" and they want me to give them a flex and then they go "yea I am gonna start trainning with you." but when ever I bring it up like hey let's go lift it's always "no, I can't right now blah blah blah" but then they never miss an opportunnity to get high so I think it comes down to actions speaking louder than words.
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