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07-27-2008, 12:31 AM
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girl at work...
Hey guys, theres a very cute girl at one of my jobs. Now that my ex is'nt responding to my e-mails anymore, I guess its time to move on. Anyway, I want to ask her out, but don't want to overstep my bounds. Here are some of my concerns: 1. I'm "technically" her boss, but this is my third job and I only work there once every two weeks and I treat everyone the same and I am easy to get along with as long as you do your job. I'm also thinking of quitting there as soon as I get in fT at anther job (which could be any time). 2. She's about my height if not slightly taller (does'nt bother me as long as it does'nt bother the girl and my ex was my height, but I know a lot of women like taller guys. 3. I'm about 14 years older than she is. 4. She has 3 kids (but hey, I'm thinking of dating no marrying right now). So what do you guys think? I've been kind of hinting around asking if she likes to go to amusement parks (she said no) and if she is going to the fair, ect. She said yes, with the kids. I don't know is if she is interested at all, but she does seem to look at me and smile a lot, but then again she is a very friendly person while I'm usually not, but there is something about her. I did find out today she's not married and does'nt have a boyfriend. But I would think if she was interested at all she would ask me some sort of questions or something. Its kind of hard to get a good sense of it only seeing her every 2 weeks. Oh yeah, she lives a good 30 miles away too. Anyway, any thoughts?
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07-27-2008, 03:38 AM
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thats what I was thinking. The thing is there is no set lunch time. We just go when we get a chance. I overheard her saying she liked pizza a couple weeks ago and later suggested we could go together on one if she wanted. But I ended up ordering a sub last time and she ordered one for herself today...
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07-27-2008, 01:05 PM
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lunch, dinner, meal, whenever u guys have time. Basically just have some times to sit down and talk, away from teh office first before thinking anything else.
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07-27-2008, 03:24 PM
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Scenario 1.
"Would you like to go out for a meal with me on Saturday night?" "Yes that would be nice thanks." Take her out for dinner & get an idea of what she thinks of you. Scenario 2. "Would you like to go out for a meal with me on Saturday night?" "No thanks." Leave her alone. Scenario 3. "Would you like to go out for a meal with me on Saturday night?" "I'm actually busy on Saturday." "How about some other time." "No thanks." Leave her alone. Scenario 4. "Would you like to go out for a meal with me on Saturday night?" "I would but I don't have a babysitter for the kids." "Maybe some time when you can arrange one?" "No thanks." Leave her alone. Scenario 5. "Would you like to go out for a meal with me on Saturday night?" "I would but I don't have a babysitter for the kids." "No problem, I'll cook you dinner at my place & you can bring your kids." "No thanks." Leave her alone. Just ask her out - the worst that can happen is that she'll say no & you'll be back where you are now. If you don't ask you may miss out on something that could turn out to be a good thing.
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07-28-2008, 07:16 AM
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Scenario 6.
I don't have time for games, I'm lonely, you're lonely, lets have sex with no strings attached. Sure. Make her a f**k buddy. Scenario 7. I don't have time for games, I'm lonely, you're lonely, lets have sex with no strings attached. Fvck you. Quit your 3rd job.
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07-28-2008, 11:23 AM
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Take her to the back seat of your car and 'discuss' your issue
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07-28-2008, 12:12 PM
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07-28-2008, 09:07 PM
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the windows to the male mind.....
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07-29-2008, 12:17 PM
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Quote:
The internet has totally crippled interpersonal skills for the 25 and younger crowd.
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07-29-2008, 10:27 PM
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07-31-2008, 12:53 AM
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If she was interested in you, she'd have let you know by now. You'll be fighting an uphill battle with this one in my opinion but you never know...
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07-31-2008, 01:43 PM
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Yeah, thats what I was thinking, but sometimes girls play those games and you don't know. I'm not real good on picking up on these things. But my ex more or less let me know when I met her by the way she acted thinking back...
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08-11-2008, 08:47 AM
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My replies to you're numbered steps.
1. I'm "technically" her boss, but this is my third job and I only work there once every two weeks and I treat everyone the same and I am easy to get along with as long as you do your job. I'm also thinking of quitting there as soon as I get in fT at anther job (which could be any time). *** Me, personally, would wait until you quit to ask her out. The phrase "Don't dip you're pen in the company's ink" is oh-so true! If you are truly going to quit then why not just wait until then? The reason being is generally when bosses and co-workers date there are some "lee-way" given to that co worker, she can and normally does get away with a lot more then the others...also, she may use you to alter policies that best suit her. This almost always creates envy from the others. 4. She has 3 kids (but hey, I'm thinking of dating no marrying right now). *** Whether it's dating or not, if you're around those kids start to expect paying for sh*t. They will need that father figure in they're lives (regardless if they have an active relationship with they're real father or not) They almost always "slip" in to being you're responsibility. PLUS, PLUS!! As my semi-idol, Tom Leykis says "She has already made three mistakes, don't be the next!" He claims single mothers are w****s (his quote, not mine, so step off ladies! ...jk) In my censored translation: Single mothers (especially ones with more then one kid, and double that if they were never married!) generally are less careful when it comes to not getting pregnant. Interesting tip, did you know 1 out of every 3 kids are born out of wedlock?? makes ya think... But either then this stuff, great. Just look after the number one person, you. Keep me posted, please.
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08-11-2008, 12:05 PM
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Kids are some serious baggage- don't go there bro
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08-13-2008, 12:17 AM
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Yeah, I've been doing some thinking, probably not a good idea. The relationship I just got out of (well I guess its been almost a year), she had 3 kids and although we had good times, I think her kids had something to do with why she broke up with me. Or probably the main reason as she did'nt think I really excepted them or whatever. Anyway, the girl at work most likely is'nt interested or she would have let me know I think as she is very outspoken. I guess there is nothing wrong with flirting and stuff, but don't think I'll ask her out unless she brings it up. Seems like theres always a "catch" as pretty girls are usually taken or have several kids. I'm sure there are exceptions (like me) that are older without a lot of baggage. It just may take awhile to find them. I just have to get the courage and get motivated to get out there. Just wish I knew where to go besides the bars or the dating sites you have to pay for. btw, I just got on that craigslist and found out you can e-mail ladies in the personals without signing up or paying. Problem is, the closest ones I could find were about 30-45 miles away, oh well, I'll just contact a couple that look interesting and see how it goes...
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