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Embarassing, but please PLEASE help!!!
Ok so this is amazingly embarassing and I can't believe that i would ever mention it to a close friend, let alone an entire forum. Ok well here's the problem. For about the past year I've gone through ALOT. I was put under alot of stress, there was a ton of unhappiness in my life. I went through an awful break up with a girl who i loved alot that i had been with since junior high. I think as much as I've been through, I do not think i am "depressed." I'm just REALLY, REALLY stressed out. so here's the problem...I'm in college and school work's just been adding to my stress. i have a girlfriend who wants to have sex (neither of us are virgins)...but like i'm having a hard time "getting up" like I used to. I really don't have much of a sex drive either...its almost like i dont even care to have sex. I'm only 19 so im dismissing the idea of some sort of erectile problem. I'm thinking it may have something to do with my testosterone level because of all the stress I've had. has anyone else had this problem? how can i find out if my testosterone is low? and what are some things i can do to boost it. I'm feeling really un-manly right now because of this and I really need some guidance. any help would be appreciated. im supremely embarrassed about this. thanks everyone
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04-12-2006, 07:53 PM
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See your doctor. He/she can check for test levels if thats an issue. Your doctor would know a lot more about this than people on a bodybuilding forum.
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04-12-2006, 08:29 PM
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Sorry to hear about he problems. Love stinks. I got jerked around a few times before I finally found my mate. When I did find her, well my life changed in a good way.
Stress is probably the biggest factor. Not just the break up/pressure for sex either. College presents its own set of stress factors (tests, term papers, dorm food, away from the family, etc.) How are you sleeping? Are you geting enough? Is it a sound sleep? How about booze? Alchohol can relly mess up test levels. Are you still hung up on the previous girlfriend? Maybe your feelings for the old girl are hampering your performance with the new girl. I dunno. If you think there might be some abnormality with your test. level, then yes, go see a Dr., and not the one at Student Health Services, I mean a real doctor. Two things tell me that would be a waste of time 1) your age 2) all the stress factors (old gf, new gf, college). Perhaps (seriously) a session or two with the campus shrink. I wish you well.
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04-12-2006, 08:34 PM
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I agree with everyone else, sounds like you answered your own question there bud. It's hard to trust (and therefore be intimate) with a girl once you've been burned, it takes time and understanding, especially on the part of your partner.
Have you talked to her about it? These kind of issues can be awful to deal with, and your girl might be having a hard time just like you... It would be a sad thing indeed if you lost her because you didn't sit her down and talk to her about it.
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04-12-2006, 10:20 PM
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Ha, sounds like me. Check in the dump, I made a thread not too far off from this one a few weeks ago. Although I didn't have trouble getting it up, I didn't want to have sex period and wouldn't take girls home because of it.
I really havn't figured that out, so I can't offer much advice. But hey misery loves company.
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04-12-2006, 10:32 PM
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--high note trumpet guy - NO i am not getting enough sleep, that should be fixed once school gets out in a/b 2 weeks for me - about booze, when this first started occuring i totally stopped drinking because i thought that may be it, well about a month later im still having the problem - there are no feelings left for the ex gf, but the ex was WILD and this girl is very conservative, so in a way yea its hard to get turned on to her.
--el torro-yea ive talked to her a/b it a little bit and she just isnt understanding it, shes a very modest girl. its odd because she will have sex, but she wont do ANYTHING else...as in no h*andjobs or b*owjobs...which is weird but she said it takes her longer to open up to that...so maybe this is actually her fault...because her not doing other stuff for me really turns me off...so maybe that is what my problem is...maybe she just isnt attracting me sexually?
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04-13-2006, 06:06 AM
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Dump her. Find yourself. Save the sex for later...much later. Become the person you totally want to be. Along the way you will meet the woman you most want to (and should) be with. Then do it.
Look at the big picture. Good luck.
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04-13-2006, 08:36 AM
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Well that would be my other guess, that you're just having problems with this girl, compounded with issues from another relationship. All I can say is communication, communication, communication!!
 Anything to do with a relationship, within reason, can be solved with just being honest and talking. Easier said than done however...This kind of reminds me of a situation I was in not too long ago. I had a real low sex drive because of stuff my ex wasn't willing to do, despite months of patience on my part... can I just ask, do you trust this girl? Do you think you're worried you're gonna get burned again? Sex is just sex, and I feel the most enjoyment you get out of it is who you're doing it with not what you're doing. Trouble in the bedroom normally means it's trouble out of the bedroom.
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04-13-2006, 08:52 AM
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Maybe try some Tribulus/ Maca/ Fenugreek...It won't really raise your Test levels or anything, but it might help with your libido (seems to work for a lot of people). If you want a stronger combo for libido and erections (albeit much more expensive) go with a combo of at least 15g a day of L-Arginine and 100mg a day of Pycnogenol. The Pycnogenol costs an arm and a leg, but this combo really works!
And don't worry...Lots of girls have weird hang-ups about sex. Lots of girls won't do BJ's at first...Not doing HJ's is a little strange, but I don't think she is unattracted to you or anything...Just give her some time!
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04-13-2006, 10:46 AM
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yea torro i totally trust her, i mean shes on a cruise right now with her gf's and i dont have a care in the world...i was thinking a/b just giving her what she wants a few time and turning her out in hopes that itd open her up to new things....traz thanks for that advice...if it's within my budget ill probably try that once i get outta school for summer here in a few weeks....thanks alot everyone for your help
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If you REALLY want an alternative, look for melanotan II. It makes you tan really easily but it also gives you a LOT of boners.... the FDA is in the process of approving a peptide based off it that is purely for the sexual reactions, but it definitely gets it up. Plus you get a tan too
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04-13-2006, 11:27 PM
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gymnut - no she wont let me go down on her yet...which confuses me because we have had sex already
but i mean shes a great girl, so im trying to just be patient with her, she keeps saying "im just not ready for that yet"...so i guess ill just stick it out for a while longer and if things dont change ill have to pack my bags and take a hike i guess caferacer - lol ill look into that...im not trying to have me some fake as lookin than though lol
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Melanocytes are the same thing that react to sunlight. Pale people are just deficient in it. Tan people have a lot of it. So when you take it, you basically tan like someone who doesn't get burned. Plus lotsa boners and horniness 
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haha i find that pretty damn funny...i'd imagine you'd want to stop taking that sh*t for a while before you put on a speedo and headed out to the beach with your new tan LOL
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04-14-2006, 12:03 PM
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Go to the doc.
Viagra is amazing.
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04-14-2006, 12:22 PM
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Besides, you are thinking about wearing a speedos. That might be part of your problem
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