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01-31-2006, 01:31 PM
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should I pursue?
So when I got back from winter break I was at one of my friend's parties and one of my other friends approached me relatively quickly after I walked in the door. She was asking me if I would be willing to train her because she's competing in a Miss America qualifer and she wants to be in top shape. Now I don't have a cert or anything, only the the kowledge I've gained from training myself. But I said I waould do it free of charge and I'd help her out.
I've been wondering to myself why she needs anyone to train her though, she already looks amazing. More and more I'm starting to think it's because she's into me. Before she started working out with me I'd usually only see her once or twice a week at a party or between classes. Now we get together almost everyday. Usually she picks me up and we go to the gym late at night, as in starting at 9 or 10 and getting done around 11. Most girls I know don't usually lift that late but whatever, she's not most girls. Wen she drops me off at my place we usually end up sitting in her car for about 10-15 minutes just talking about stuff that we have in common, which I've discovered is quite a bit. When she's training she tries to flirt with me a little bit, but then again, for her I can't tell if it's out of the ordinary cuz it's usually ever so slight. So I decided to do a little test last night, She had told me that wanted to work out that night, but she couldn't stay too late because she had a test in the morning to study for so I told her I'm up for it cuz I had to lift anyway so I'd be there. I figured my workouts are considerably longer than hers, so I wanted to see how long she'd stay after she got done with her workout while I finished my lift. She stayed the whole time even though she had a test to get studying for and by the time we got out of there it was around 11:30. I guess I should probly just make a move so I know one way or the other, but since she is my friend and I'm training her for a pageant, I don't want anything to be wierd between us if she doesn't reciprocate. If she does, then that'd be awesome, but again I'd feel like I was mixing gym life with personal life which I don't like to do(guess it's too late for that anyway I guess). Sorry for this being such a long and confusing post, there's probly some things that are bound to be misunderstood from it all but that's probly my fault for making it so long and confusing.
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01-31-2006, 01:57 PM
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go for it...you seem to have a lot in common and she seems cool.
however, i would not try it the night before a test....it might phase her out. offer to take her to lunch after the test.
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01-31-2006, 01:58 PM
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Yes, that is a tough situation you are in. I could never mix the two either. I would just flat out let her know what kind of vibes you are getting from her, discuss them, and then come to a mutual understanding. Otherwise, its gonna continue being weird for you.
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01-31-2006, 02:02 PM
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fro what i can tell, she digs you. i say go for it, but remember, Miss America has to be single and unattached, hehe. I say you should ask her on an official date, and take her somewhere nice, but not too nice, to eat. and make a move sometime during the night. I made the mistake once of waiting too long to make a move( i chickened out way too many times), and the relationship faded, and i will never know if it could have turned out to be a long lasting thing.
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01-31-2006, 02:06 PM
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01-31-2006, 02:06 PM
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Man....A Miss America contender??? You have got to go for it bro! You can't let this opportunity slip you by! It sounds like you get along really well and have a lot in common....she lifts at 11:30pm for F***'S sake! That is rare in a woman. I understand that it could possibly make things awkward, but never knowing what might have been would be worse IMO.
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You know what I mean...It is still pretty cool! I would jump at the chance is all that I am saying. A girl that is that dedicated and attractive is rare.
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01-31-2006, 02:18 PM
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Did I mention she also likes to hunt and fish, and she can speak arabic and french?
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01-31-2006, 02:23 PM
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Dude!!!!!! Is there some sort of catch you aren't telling us about! She sounds awesome! I love a cultured woman! Just do it....for me...for every man....
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01-31-2006, 05:06 PM
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are you slaming anyone else? it sounds like you spend all your time with her, so my sources say NO! you better get in her pants because your penis is mad at you for teasing him every workout!!!! get to work buddy
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02-01-2006, 01:54 AM
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So I'm pretty sure of 2 things:
1.) I'm going to make a move this week. 2.) I'm lacking balls, I spent about 45 minutes talking to her after her workout today in her car outside of my building. The whole time she was really into the conversation, but she was fidgeting like she was nervous, i.e. she kept playing with her hair and a little hair band the whole time, which is something she never really does around other people. I think the only reason I didn't make a move tonight is because some whow we got on the topic of her prom and she was telling me about how she went with a friend who later decided that he wanted to be more than friends and she didn't so it kinda left a bad taste in her mouth. Since she's such a cool person I guess I kinda freaked out on the inside thinking that I didn't want to make things wierd between us. Also, can I get some of the ladies opinions on this matter, I really don't want to get the let's just be friends line when I make a move this week.
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02-01-2006, 11:23 AM
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yo man, from another guys perspective.....
you are in her car for 10-15 minutes nightly you say, so you HAVE to make this move soon or you will fall into the "forever friendship" role. women will only give you a certain amount of time to change things at first and then you will have to resort to just being a good friend for life. i screwed this up on my last girl. granted, she is one helluva friend and i love her to death, but i wouldve loved being in a relationship ya know. so, IMHO, you gotta be def makin that move this week like you said. also, i dont blame you for not doing it when talking about her prom and stuff, that was a bad time to do it based upon the convo. maybe you can bring something up that would make it easier to transition into asking her out....gl man
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02-01-2006, 11:54 AM
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Who's Jake Steinfeld?
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02-01-2006, 11:56 AM
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Aah, yeah, but did he get the girl?
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