[mitchcumstein]

Originally Posted by Robyn81478

I have worried plenty of times about what else he is lying about. He swears on his life he would never physically cheat on me and 99% of me believes that. He has some deep seated issues with cheating that are not appropriate for me to discuss that lead me to believe him on that note. Have I ever caught him lying about anything else? Yes. Mostly stupid things like telling me one night he had to work late when instead he was at a friends house playing Guitar Hero. Or when I was pregnant and he told me he quit smoking and he really hadn't. These things aren't appropriate to lie about, but I'm sure there isn't a single one of us who hasn't told a lie like this in our past. These are lies I can deal with. Not cool, but mostly harmless. However, this whole situation makes me question every little thing he does. I've become a person that I never wanted to be. I freak out if he talks to another female. I've gone through his cell phone countless times (we're both big texters), I've read his MySpace messages if he happens to leave it signed in. I've called numbers that I've seen in his phone. Sound psycho enough for you? That's what I've become.

Thats because you cant trust him with the little things. What youve 'become' is probably perfectly normal based on the circumstances. Some counseling may not be a bad idea before you decide to scrap the whole relationship. Both of you need to sort out your feelings and know where the other is coming from.