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Originally Posted by joemomma
Robyn you gotta understand that it isn't your issue, it is his. There isn't a thing wrong with you, period. He's got issues that he needs to work out before you head down the marriage path with him. I would also be worried about other things that he might not be completely honest about. Oh, one more thing: there is no such thing as a healthy lie. A lie is a lie, period. Liers become a problem...at first, it's just one little one. Then, it moves on to something else that's maybe a little bit worse. It's a progressive thing, just like drinking or gambling (or porn). You sound like a fantastic woman, and he is lucky to have you and should get his act together.
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Great response. This is what I was trying to allude to in my previous Robyn. Just because he lied about something you percieve as "small", he still felt the urge to be dishonest - the question is why? I've got friends like this and the smaller things only lead to bigger lies and sooner or later, it will lead to 2nd nature to him. He will just be dishonest about anything and everything, regardless of the signficance.
Gill's post was well put and he probably does feel like you are being his mother, but what choice do you have? Sounds like you have tried all approaches and at some point the disrespect has to stop (his disrespect toward you), so don't think for one minute that this was your fault or that you are somewhat to blame. You've posted pics before and you are damn HOT. This is his problem to own and he won't change until he comes faces it and decides that HE wants to change.