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Originally Posted by ktinspired
you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Aviod accusing and fighting about it. REMEBER this is his problem and it isnt your fault.
At this point you dont know if he has an addiction or just recreation. Judging by the fact he's lying about it tells me he may have aproblem.
Anyway, tell him how it makes your heart feel and just ask him if thats the way he wants YOUR life to be. Depressed and insecure? Is the porn that important? Tell him it hurts and ask him to lay off "for the sake of our future and the quality of our relationship. "
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The thing is, I've had heart to hearts with him. I've completely broken down in front of him, begged him, pleaded with him and given him scenarios what his life will be like without me and his daughter. I've asked him to go talk to someone if he can't stop. Now it has gotten to the point that I told him if he didn't want to talk to someone that he had to leave. His response was that he's not going to talk to a stranger and it's too expensive. I've told him that if he doesn't, he's gone. His solution was that he wouldn't use the computer unless I was home. To me this doesn't fix the problem at all, it just asks for him to hide it even more if he got the urge to do it. I know that he has a problem. This much is evident to me. What I cannot do is get through to HIM that he has a problem. He just keeps saying that he won't do it anymore and then he does and his response is that he doesn't know why.
As of today, I've shut him out. I've completely closed down my emotions to him. It's the hardest thing I've ever done because I can honestly say I love this man more than anyone I've ever been with. I went to bed without saying good night and that's something I've never done. When he said good-bye this morning and went for a kiss, I turned my head. I'm ignoring his texts. I honestly have no interest in having contact with him at this point. He is sending me messages acting like nothing is wrong. This is what I feel like I have to do to get through to him and it's a terrible feeling.