[ktinspired]

I feel ya sister!!!! porn can quickly become an addiction. It is very damaging to many families. Its a tough situation to be in. And I know what you are feeling ..I've been there. My opinion on it is ...anything done in secret is being unfaithful. If you cant or wont do it or say it if front of your s/o is wrong.

My first husband had a porn addiction. And with that ..as with other addiction come a short temper. Most people think that sitting down veiwing pornography is personal and affects only themselves but trust me when I tell you it is a deep rooted problem. If fact IMO is decaying the family unit in a big way.

you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Aviod accusing and fighting about it. REMEBER this is his problem and it isnt your fault.
At this point you dont know if he has an addiction or just recreation. Judging by the fact he's lying about it tells me he may have aproblem.

Anyway, tell him how it makes your heart feel and just ask him if thats the way he wants YOUR life to be. Depressed and insecure? Is the porn that important? Tell him it hurts and ask him to lay off "for the sake of our future and the quality of our relationship. "
As far as the wedding.....you may reconsider next month until you know were he stands. IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE.....you will wake up one day not knowing who you are, and what makes you a great gal. TRUST ME!

Many people here will tell you there is nothing wrong with it and the problem sint him it you.......DO NOT BELIEVE THAT!!!

I wish you the best with all this....I really do. I feel ya!