Hello Sunshine,
Welcome to BB4U. I'm a 44 mom of two Airmen. One in Iraq at this moment. I know all about the stress. My son just lost his partner and friend and was injured himself by an IED at the end of March. I was coming home to MA from being with his family in Idaho when it happened and am returning to Idaho in May and staying until he returns in June. His wife is having a really tough time emotionally with his near miss in Iraq.
First...I have had no experience with any type of thermogenic. The closest I've come to using anything to help with weight loss was green tea caps.
Secondly...It sounds like you do have a good general idea about the fitness lifestyle.
I will say that our age we do have to be a bit more patient with ourselves. What I could strip off quickly in my 20's doesn't want to come off so quickly now.
Can you tell us about your lifting, cardio and diet program now?