[Hawkwind]

Ya know...this is a tough subject.
I had a fiance that cheated on me. And then my husband repeatedly cheated on me. Neither one of them cared for porn.

I was the one that used to enjoy reading hustler and the biker mags. Ironically it made my husband uncomfortable. So I stopped buying the magazines that I liked to read.

I have seen porn addictions destroy marriages. And I have male and female friends that enjoy porn and don't take it to extremes.

What you are projecting on to your husband is a result of what you went through in your first marriage. You are probably going to carry those scars with you for a very long time. But you really need to work on not letting those painful times ruin what you have now. I am a believer in taking time with a therapist if need be to work through issues such as you are facing.

As far as worrying about his e-mails and what he's doing when he's out with his buddies. You are torturing yourself needlessly. Believe me. If there is a problem, you would probably be the first to know. I always know when my husband is up to 'no-good'.

It sounds like you have a good man, and that you are projecting the pain and suffering from your first marriage into this relationship. It's good that you realize the need to change. That is half the battle.

I wish you well, and that you can find the peace you need.